One thing you need to know
is that a group of Mean Girls resembles wild wolves in more ways than
one: They are vicious, they travel in packs, and they can smell fear.
These traits are dangerous yes, but just like any other pack of
mutts, Mean Girls can be tamed.
The
Pack Mentality:
Yes.
Mean Girls are vicious, but only because they feed off of the support
from the rest of their pack. If she stands alone she knows her victim
is equally qualified to defend herself and perhaps even strike back!
VERY rarely will a Mean Girl attack when she is alone. A Lone Mean
Girl is as rare as a unicorn, as far as I'm concerned. If you do find
a lone girl, you’ll probably notice she is not a mean one.
If she is secure enough with herself to stand on her own, then you
can bet she’s secure enough with herself without needing to attack
others.
It’s
more than normal to have a pack mentality as a young girl. If you’re
a lone wolf, then that’s great! If you're not, then find your pack.
Mean Girls aren’t the only ones that need some moral support.
Every
pack has a pack leader. There is always one girl that influences the
decisions of her minions, whether it is for good . . . or for evil!
If you can, try not to anger the pack leader; that mistake will set
off the entire pack. If you run into a situation where trouble is
just plain unavoidable, then show them who's the alpha. YOU.
Your
Fear is Smelly:
Just
because you feel like everyone is against you does not mean you put
your tail between your legs and cower down each time they growl at
you. That has to be the biggest mistake I've seen girls make. As I
said above, a pack of Mean Girls can sense fear. That is absolutely
not a joke.
I have
witnessed, experienced, and heard of numerous pack fights. (When I
say fights, I mean the yelling at each other and spreading rumors
kind of fights. Not fist fights!) Let me tell you something about
these explosions of estrogen; every fight where the victim has tried
to apologize, tried to get back on the Mean Girl's good side, avoided
the pack at school, or attempted to be kind to the pack, has never
ended well for the poor girl. MEAN GIRLS CAN SMELL FEAR! I cannot say
it enough, people! They feed off of it. They enjoy the adrenaline
that comes with fighting and if it is an easy fight where their
actions can only continue to escalate with no consequences, things
get ugly.
Victims
of Mean Girl attacks can be emotionally scarred and more often than
not they will walk away with a scorched reputation from lies and
rumors. Do not let them push you around. Don't let them smell your
fear. Bullying must be nipped in the bud before it grows even the
tiniest bit. It is okay to defend yourself and your friends.
Standing up to Mean Girls is 99.9% effective.
I am
not suggesting you sniff out the Mean Girls in school and bring them
to their knees before they ever knew your name. Absolutely not. We
all remember the wisdom of the Karate Kid Master, don’t we? “I
train to fight, so that I don’t have to fight.”
The
Art Of Girl Taming:
When you emit the glow of confidence in yourself and
your ability to hold your own, others can feel it. That glow will be
your weapon on the battlefield of hormones and puberty. (cringe) The
girls that carry themselves with the sparkle of self-assurance are
treated differently by everyone, especially by Mean Girls. The hungry
pack might test her glow to see how much they can get away with, but
they never get very far before backing down. Love who you are. Don't
be scared to be yourself!
In
learning to tame a Girl Pack, you must understand the single
difference between a pack of Mean Girls and a pack of wolves. You
see, unlike wolves, girls are all bark and no bite. This is good news
for you! Throughout my 9-12 grade schooling I’ve seen several
actual fist fights, only one of them involving girls. Mean
Girls will circle, snap, growl, bark, show their teeth, but the
chances of one physically attacking you are a million to one! I have
been threatened multiple times, especially when I was in my first
year of middle school and had little to no experience on the
battlefield. Girls have threatened to beat me up, steal my boyfriend,
and one girl even threatened to kill me after school. Kill me! (She
was a real psychopath.) My point being, I have never been in a real
fight. Why?
Bullying
is a sport and the athletes love a giant audience of spectators who
will “Ooooh” and “Ahhhh” their performance. If ever their
opponent were to beat them by using skills they do not have, such as
fighting skills, they would be humiliated! Their whole reputation
that they screamed at so many girls to build will come crumbling
down! They would never dirty their hands with some real effort to
take that risk. In my first year of middle school and after the first
few bad experiences, I had been terrified and I had asked my father
to begin teaching me his best skill set: MMA. Mixed martial arts. I
learned enough to defend myself if ever necessary and I took comfort
in the fact that I could handle a violent situation if it ever
presented itself. Like any victim, I was worried that I was going to
be assaulted every day after school, but I just didn't understand
that girls were all bark. No bite. Mean Girls are not ninjas, or
assassins, or pro-wrestlers. Don't let them fool you. After I
realized this, I found it odd how scared some girls could be of the
Mean Girl pack. They’re not going to assault you! I promise my
readers that girls are all talk! How can I promise such a thing? I've
tested the theory.
As my
encounters with Girl Packs increased over the years and I found
myself in high school, I realized I had survived every attack without
so much as a yank on my hair. At that point I was used to girls and
their malicious tendencies and I had acquired the glow I mentioned
above, thanks to my dad's self defense lessons. Now, having been a
veteran on the battlefield and a strong survivor, I may have gotten
a little too confident with my glow. I wont lie to you, I wielded my
new found confidence by testing the bravery of some Pack Leaders. I'm
not exactly proud of it, but I have pushed Mean Girls to the absolute
end of their fuse, prepared to start throwing fists, and all they
ever did was scream till they could no longer form coherent
sentences. Why be so afraid of a little bark? There is no reason to
truly fear Mean Girls, I guarantee it. And if you do get physically
attacked, I will give you your money back.
So!
Mean Girls and wolf packs! What have we learned? They are vicious in
packs, they can smell fear, and their bark is worse than their bite.
If you ever find yourself facing down a few bloodthirsty girls,
always, always, always remember that just like any other pack of dumb
mutts, they can be tamed.
Sincerely,
Storm.
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