This New Era of Love: A Contradiction I Can't Make Sense of.

So, pretty big week for the homosexual community, am I right? I woke up that morning, checked my social media, and was blinded by rainbows and exclamation points from every post. Big day, big day. Congratulations, people. You can finally get married. You are officially legally entitled to the scalding chains of marriage. I hope you enjoy the two simple words that will crumble your carefree, exciting relationship. Welcome to the club! I crossed marriage off of my bucket list when I was 19. Can you believe that? Not surprisingly, I was divorced within the year. I'll spare you my negative views on the concept and skip to the point.

Personally, I am not against the legalization of “gay marriage.” I believe that we are all loved by our God, despite the choices we make. Even when you take religion out of it, we are all human beings. We are all on one Earth. We are equal. With that being said, I stand with the Live and Let Live philosophy. Just because our beliefs and opinions differ, does not make one of us better than the other. It's diversity that makes this world so interesting. I'm not writing this to offend anyone. I'm not lashing out. I only wish to share a conundrum that I have pondered for years, and perhaps someone can clear up the confusion.

Homosexuality. By definition it is, “sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person of one's own sex.”

(I couldn't find a definition that didn't revolve around sexual intent. Perhaps you guys need to work on that . . . Try to implement a definition that revolves around love or attraction. Come on, Websters. Get with it.)

To put it bluntly, homosexuality is a concept I do not understand based on what I have witnessed. Here's why.

There's no denying that homosexual men act feminine. It's okay; it's not an insult. They TRY to behave that way. The way they walk, talk, and even dress. In my experience, gay guys are just a blast and so much fun to hang out with, though they can tend to be more drama than even us drama queens. Right? Can we all agree?

Now look at lesbian women. How do they walk, talk, and dress? They're portraying masculinity, right? The short hair, T-shirts, the punching your shoulder every time they laugh at one of your jokes. These stereotypes are not just in the movies, but they dominate the homosexual society. Of course there are the rare few that defy these unspoken laws, but for the most part, gay men portray femininity and gay women portray masculinity.

(Gentlemen, we are not discussing those two hot lesbians in your porn clips. The one's with all of the makeup and the long hair and the high heels. We're talking about those that you see in real life.)

So here is the contradiction that I can't fathom:

Homosexual men have a sort of beacon. It's like a mating call. Where a straight man would flex and flaunt his manliness in the club to attract females, a homosexual man would flick his wrist and dress fabulously to attract males that are attracted to males. Still with me? Okay. Gay men portray femininity to attract feminine men that are attracted to that man and his femininity. Just like the straight man, it seems gay men are attracted to femininity. Do you know what the quintessential form of femininity is? It sure as hell isn't Feminists (don't let the title fool you.)

It is simply, females.

Show me two masculine men that are madly in love with one another's masculinity.

Homosexual women bare the same beacon. Lesbians portray masculinity to attract masculine women who are attracted to the women that carry themselves with a strong sense of masculinity. The quintessential form of masculinity?

Men.
Show me TWO feminine females are madly in love with one another's femininity. Outside of porn.

With the claim of an attraction to their own sex, why on earth do they work so hard to resemble the opposite sex to please others that also claim to be attracted to their own sex? In what universe does that make sense? Homosexual men act as if they're attracted to femininity. Homosexual women act as if they're attracted to masculinity. It is a massive contradiction, is it not?

I explained this reasoning to a woman I worked with that embraced the title of, Lesbian, in every aspect. Her reply was, “that's a good point, but I don't know how to explain it. It's confusing.”

Is the attraction purely sexual, as dictionary definitions claim? I'm not sure that there's a straight woman that is just absolutely infatuated by the sight of a penis. Come on. Let's be real. A female's body is nothing to turn your nose up at. The curves, the details. I can appreciate the female body, but I am still attracted to masculinity. That does not make me a lesbian any more than it does anyone else.

Confusing, indeed. What's your opinion on the subject? I'd love to hear it!